Overcoming self-doubt

A lack of faith or confidence in our ability as an author hits us all at one time or another. This past week has been no different for me. My MS is full of tropes. I’m a failure.  No agent is going to accept me. My writing stinks!

Author self-doubt

We’ve all heard the little gremlins, but what makes us carry on despite the crippling fear.

My favourite quote is by Suzy Kassem. She hits the proverbial nail on the head with her wise words. Sometimes it’s the shove I need to keep going, to keep trying and to hope tomorrow I’ll believe in myself once again.

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.” – Suzy Kassem.

For me, perseverance is the only option. In the past I’ve buried myself in a double quilt with a large bar of chocolate as my only comfort but life simply passed on by. I now wonder what might have been if I’d had faith in my future.

“If you hear a voice within you say you cannot paint, then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”  – Vincent Van Gogh

And so we should continue to paint with our words, dream up lands from fantasy and create what only our minds can conjure.

Remember we have the right to nurture ourselves, to take a step back, regroup and reconnect to those we care about. As a suffer of mental illness, I understand that sometimes the inner voice is the cruellest one of all. So I won’t feel guilty about allowing myself time to pick up the pieces.


“Our doubts are traitors,
and make us lose the good we oft might win,
by fearing to attempt.” – William Shakespeare.

What helps you navigate from the tiny terrors that whisper inside your mind? Do share, I’d love to know.

14 thoughts on “Overcoming self-doubt

  1. For me, it’s pharmacology and the bi-weekly PTSD support/therapy group that keeps me sane. Sadly, as the VA (Veterans Administration) is pushing towards the “evidence based” therapies and eliminating the rest. For those of us failed by said therapies are left with the handful of pills they give us and a bottle. Hopefully I can find a replacement, time will tell. Ugh, government bean counters suck. And do they fix the VA? Nope, but those rats in DC have no problem continually voting for more wars so they can create more veterans whom they inevitably fail. Okay, rant over…. I’ll leave the rest for my internal monolog.

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    1. Chuck

      Hi JR,
      I am a Vietnam Vet and in my time we also had PTSD, yet it was not given a name. It was called weakness by the public and other Vets that were or were not affected by it. Although, if any Vietnam Vet was honest with themselves and others, we all suffered in one form or another. You don’t go to war and not be affected by it.

      I get it that the VA has failed in so many ways. In my opinion, giving up because they are not meeting your needs is giving up on yourself. Counseling, pills, booze or what ever is not going to solve your PTSD. Counseling & medication will help minimize the symptoms and if needed, should be taken. Counseling is a must; yet it does not have to be done at the VA. When all is said and done, you are the one who must overcome PTSD.

      Vets are not the only ones that suffer with PTSD. First responders, medical care givers, and others involved in tragedies all are potential PTSD patients. Due to our current Vets, they raised the issue which has been hidden for years. In most communities, there are support groups for almost everything. If you cannot get the counseling you need from the VA, seek out the other sources. They are there for the asking. Okay, I’ll get off my soap box.

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      1. Thank you for posting, and caring… as for counseling, without insurance the VA is all I’ve got. That said, my doctor is working on transitioning me to another doctor so hopefully it works. 🙂 And as a Practitioner of the Soap Box myself I could never judge another! 😛


      1. Thank you, it’s hard because that group LITERALLY saved my life. Not in hyperbolic way, but I was in a dark place after Iraq and close to a choice; bullet or bottle, but either way an end. Luckily she is meeting with me to find me a quality provider and to transition me on to one of her interns turned Doc. But I’ll take it a day at a time! Thanks for asking.

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  2. Chuck

    Hi JR,
    If I came across at being judgmental, I apologize. I was trying to state there are so many avenues these days for counseling. Individuals suffering do not need to suffer. In our area you can dial 211 and get in touch with our help-line. They will find you help even if you have no insurance. There are so many support groups available. Bottom line, please do not tolerate and suffer; reach out.

    From one who has been where you are now, (attempted suicide, booze, drugs, etc.) I urge you to stay positive and never give up. God Bless

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