Why rejection is important?

Writers need to deal with rejection. The industry we work in is subjective and competitive. Striving for greatness comes at a cost, usually to our pride.

Recognition is important for everyone. Unfortunately artists tend to get the least amount, unless you’ve made it to the top. I haven’t I’m still way down in the trenches, striving for that elusive goal of being appreciated for my craft.

desk writing novel author Lorraine Ambers

I submitted my debut novel to ten agents. At the time my writing was the best I could achieve. So I sent my book baby off and used my excited/ anxious energy into creating the second in the series. Four months later, that driving force of anticipation had manifested into book two of The Shadow Knight Series. Amazing.

When all of the submissions came back with a polite ‘Not what we’re looking for.’ or ‘We don’t think your material is the right fit for us.’ I took a look at my submission package.

I was surprised to find my writing had improved. I cringed at my old material. The rejections morphed with my inner critical voice and attacked. We’ve all been there and it’s brutal. Rejection hurts. We get stressed out, upset and frustrated. That’s a useful tool.

writer worry rejection author Lorraine Ambers

This is where rejection can actually be useful. The driving force behind the hurt and disappointment allows us to re-evaluate and try again.

Remember: Successful people have made it because they didn’t give up.

Fear not, with the right mind-set and some initiative and introspect we can turn things around. By taking control of the situation, we can turn that negativity into something positive. Next time we’ll do better, or learn to be better. This isn’t the end of the road, it’s a bump in the path.

To paraphrase Samuel Beckett: fail again, fail better.

I revised the first 10,000 words, three more times. I’m confident that at this moment in time I have done my best. Who knows, maybe after revising book two, I’ll realise that I’ve grown some more. That can only be a good thing.

Conquer fear Author Lorraine Ambers

Keep going. Have faith and above all else believe in yourself.

Have you learnt any valuable lessons from rejection? If so, tell me about them. We’re all in this together and I’d love to hear from you.

Author Lorraine Ambers YA fantasy romance

© Author Lorraine Ambers and http://www.lorraineambers.com, 2016.

21 thoughts on “Why rejection is important?

  1. If agents would give you any useful information as to why their rejecting you, it would be extremely helpful. I realize they’re swamped with queries daily. But you’re left in the dark as to why they rejected you. I got the George Costanza break-up line. “It’s not you, it’s me.” That leaves you with the mistaken assumption that your writing is solid, you just have to keep trying. 50 rejections later you’re still swinging wildly with no results, and no idea what to do to make it better.

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    1. I know. Trouble is, each agent has their own opinion. Many fantastic writers get rejected. Yes, rubbish one do to. As long as we keep growing, improving our craft & believe in ourselves we’ll get there one day. (Hopefully)


  2. I learned that people who reject you will sometimes go out of their way to ensure you fail at your endeavor. I wouldn’t have believed some people were like that if someone had just told me. The only response is to try even harder. Nice post, by the way. And good luck!

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  3. Terrific reminder.

    And yeah, I had a similar experience with a book of my own. It was my baby. I thought it was perfect. I started work on another book while I waited for an agent to snap up the first.

    When I got nothing but rejections, I took another look and squirmed.

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  4. It is a pure truth of life. You can’t entertain all of them at the same time. People who don’t like your entertainment would reject you the most. The best thing is, we always meet those sort of people a the first place and rejections teach us. One of the best tools I’ve ever found. Embrace it and more importantly, keep moving forward.
    Live well.

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  5. Yesssssssss!!! I am submitting my work as well! And ugh! I did get one agent, however, I need to work on my narrative arc. Ever since, it has become very very tough. I am actually planning on going to writing workshops. They do say that it’s best to have multiple people read your work prior to sending it out. So, that’s what I’ve learned. It can be very discouraging, but I am giving myself one more year to make it work. Otherwise, I’ll stop. Good writing, keep querying, and never stop reading and believing in yourself!

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    1. Congrats on getting an agent. I imagined it would become tougher, they want to help mouldy your novel into the best possible story. I have a great writing group, they critique my work & I in turn listen & help them. It’s been invaluable. Keep up the good work, I believe in you. 😊

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